Increasing numbers of men are interested in the idea of finding a foreign bride. But is it worthwhile looking for love on one of the many international Russian dating sites? And how do you know which dating site is worth using? Here's a brief guide to choosing a Russian dating site, and a list of what I consider to be the best Russian dating sites.
The Best Russian Dating Sites
So what are the best Russian dating sites? Based on my knowledge of Asian dating, I've had a good long hard look at Russian dating sites. There are some pretty shady sites out there, I can tell you. I would say that compared to Asian dating, the Russian dating scene doesn't have a great reputation. However, I like these sites:
- A Belarus Bride is more of a marriage agency than a dating site. But the ladies are hand picked and the owners of the site give their clients an exceptional customer service experience.
- Elena's Models is a popular site. The site has a reasonable subscription fee, and I feel this site isn't just in it for the money.
- Russian Euro (also known as Russian Cupid) is one of the larger dating sites. The . On the downside, the site has a reputation for having plenty of scammers on it. But as you get more experienced at chatting to Russian women you'll soon recognize the scam ladies. On its sister site Chinese LoveLinks I've been a member for around 2 months and already I have no problems spotting the dubious ladies.
Other popular sites are Anastasia Web, and a whole host of smaller sites with names like NiceRussianWomen and Hot Russian Brides. Use these sites at your own risk, since they can be expensive to use.
Russian Brides Myths
First of all although Russian ladies seeking Western men for marriage are often called mail order brides, this term is fairly outdated. It's not possible to buy a Russian bride, or get her shipped over to the United States or another country. To be allowed to join you in a Western country you'll need to supply evidence that your relationship with a Russian lady is genuine, that you've met and that you really are both in love.
Furthermore, Western women are often suspicious of Russian brides. They think they're all impoverished and live in shacks. The reality is that the majority of Russian mail order brides are highly educated and have good jobs back in Russia. On top of that they're usually extremely charming and very well dressed.
One other point worth mentioning is that many Russian brides aren't even Russian. Sign up to one of the many Russian dating sites and you'll soon notice that the majority of the women are from former Soviet countries like Ukraine and Belarus! Most of the ladies do however speak Russian, and they'll also look identical to Russian women, so don't worry too much.
How to Choose a Russian Dating Site
Here are some tips on what to look for when selecting a Russian dating site:
Most dating sites are free to sign up for. This is nice as you can sign up and have a no-obligation browse to see what the lady profiles are like.
Less is more when it comes to Russian dating services and their membership databases. Be dubious of claims that a site has 10,000+ Russian women registered on the site. It's far better to use a site where the ladies have been screened, interviewed and hand picked for suitability as brides for foreign men. To take an example, I'm a member of an introduction agency that seeks foreign husbands for ladies. The agency has around 100 female members. It's not so easy to find a partner using this agency. But look at their divorce rate amongst couples who have met through the agency - it's 0%. Hardly any large dating sites will have a divorce rate this low.
Stay away from letter writing sites! These are free to join but you have to pay to send or receive a letter from a Russian lady. While it means it's easy to communicate with a Russian lady this way, it's expensive. It's also where the source of most dating site complaints stem from. The problem is that it's in the site's interest to invent fake profiles, or put loads of duplicate profiles on the site. You can also spend money writing to ladies who are engaged, in a relationship or maybe not even looking for a husband any more. It's difficult to prove any of this goes on, but look around antiscam forums and blogs and you'll see plenty of convincing evidence that it does. There's even evidence that Russian ladies are being employed to chat with foreign men.
Don't put too much weight on a site saying it has all kinds of anti-scam measures in place. In general the more a site mentions scam protection, the more problems it will be having with scammers. The sad fact of the matter is that dating site scammers are everywhere. There's plenty of evidence that even mainstream dating services like eHarmony are infested with them. Your best defence against Russian scam ladies is to learn how to spot them. And of course to not send anyone money.
Be wary of sites using IMBRA regulations to explain why you can't get address details of ladies. Two problems with this are:
- IMBRA only applies to US residents.
- Sites that charge you each time you write to a lady will try to string out your correspondence and try to make it hard to communicate with a lady directly.
Also be wary of Russian dating sites that have any sort of webcam chat facility that you have to pay for by the minute. Some sites have 3 way telephone translation services. These can be useful if you're chatting to a Russian girl who doesn't speak much English. But keep these services for important conversations, and try chatting by using simple English or the Google English to Russian translator.
Some dating sites advertise them as 100% free. If you're going to use a free dating service then make sure it actually is free. Most, if not all dating sites are free to sign up to, but you usually have to pay to contact members. Free sites can be good. However bear in mind that their search engines are often very basic, so you'll have to spend a lot of time reading profiles. The sites are often havens for scam ladies as the sites don't have the resources to hunt down the scammers. Paid dating sites also tend to have much better search facilities and some may offer translation services. Remember that finding a wife from Russian is not always a cheap option, so don't skimp a few dollars by not using a decent dating site.
Don't assume that Russian or Eastern European women prefer much older men. If you're looking for love then you're better off finding a Russian woman closer to your own age.
Finally there are all kinds of dating site reviews sites out there. Be wary that many of these have fake reviews so don't read too much into them.